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I'm Gay and Proud of it!

Just 2 days ago, I was so stressed out as my parents, after 31 years of marriage, made the decision to (finally) part ways. This was not easy in the eyes of a 31-year-old only child, but I let it be as I am too old to be taking sides. I maintained a neutral stand on the matter but promised my Mom that I'd support whatever decision she would make TO THE LAST LETTER. Moving back, Friday before this incident happened, I had my usual Skype chat with my niece, who happens to be my only 101% confidant. I don't know what grimness wrapped us both that day and I cannot anymore remember why, of all topics, we discussed my father's physical abuse on me when I was a kid. I was teary-eyed while chatting, as I related to my niece my most unforgettable beat-up day: It was a rainy afternoon. Merienda was ready -- purefoods hotdogs, tasty bread, and Anchor butter. That was summer after finishing 3rd grade (I was 9). That afternoon, no water was running from the faucet so we were skimping on...

The Not Rape Epidemic

Soon another International Women's Month will close. Before it does, I would like to share with all of you an essay that I first read on my favorite blog Transgriot . The essay, written by Latoya Peterson of Racialicious , appeared on Transgriot as a guest post . I found the essay both moving and powerful. Moreover, it made me reflect on the kind of sexualization (and the violence that comes with it) that all women have to face all throughout their lives. It also reminded me of what Susan Brownmiller, in her book Against Our Will: Men, Women and Rape , observed: "Man's discovery that his genitalia could serve as a weapon to generate fear must rank as one of the most important discoveries of prehistoric times, along with the use of fire and the first crude stone axe." Although many have since criticized this observation as simplistic and overly exaggerated, it finds resonance in the essay below. Do read it and tell me what you think. The Not Rape Epidemic by Latoya Pe...